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The Power of Pidyon Haben
Does Every Jewish Firstborn Have a Pidyon Haben?
You just had your very first baby — and it’s a boy! Mazel Tov. It’s time to start planning the pidyon haben. Or, is it?
That depends on a variety of factors. While Pidyon Haben does mean “redemption of the firstborn,” most Jewish firstborns aren’t actually redeemed. There are very definite limits for the mitzvah.
What gives a baby the status of requiring a Pidyon Haben? The Pidyon Haben halacha is that the baby must “open its mother’s womb.” This means that his mother, (who must be Jewish), has never had a baby before, and that the baby was delivered naturally, not through a C-section. Also, if either of the baby’s parents is a Kohen or Levi, the baby does not need a Pidyon Haben.
Because there are so many factors in deciding whether or not a pidyon haben is in order, it’s advisable to confirm with a rabbi in any cases of doubt.
The History Behind Performing Pidyon Haben
A Pidyon Haben is performed by the father of a firstborn Jewish boy. The father redeems his son from a Kohen by giving the Kohen five authentic silver coins.
To understand this obligation, a little Jewish history is in order. Originally, all firstborns were intended to be Kohanim, and perform services in the Bais Hamikdash. Every family would have their oldest son represent them in the Beis Hamikdash.
But this plan was changed after the Sin of the Golden Calf, during which only Shevet Levi, (the tribe of Levi,) was completely free of sin. The rest of the Jewish nation was punished for their misdeed and they lost the privilege of serving as Kohanim. Instead of the firstborns of the nation performing the service in the Beis Hamikdash, the descendants of Aharon, from the tribe of Levi, took their place.
However, firstborn Jewish baby boys retain the intrinsic potential to be a Kohen. They are born with a special kedushah (holiness) as a result of being “set aside for G-d’s service.” It’s because of this unique status that he needs to be redeemed by a Kohen. The Kohen will fulfill the service in the baby’s stead, thereby actualizing the baby’s potential for holiness.
Your little boy is special- but you already knew that, didn’t you?
What is the Pidyon Haben Ceremony Like?
When it comes to a wedding or a bris, we’re often familiar with the steps of the ceremony. But because a Pidyon Haben is a unique occasion, which occurs to only 1 in 10 Jewish couples (source: aish.com), you may find yourself anticipating your special day with little idea of what it’s going to look like. Here’s what to expect:
- Prior Preparations
A pidyon haben can’t happen without a Kohen, so it’s important to find a Kohen right away. Ideally, you’ll want to have a kohen who is knowledgeable and experienced with the proceedings of the Pidyon Haben ceremony. You may want to ask a Rabbi who is a Kohen to be the one to accept the redemption coins, but a kohen who is not a rabbi is perfectly fine as well. If you have a family member or an acquaintance who is a kohen, you may decide to honor that person instead.
The first item on the list of ‘What to Bring to a Pidyon Haben’ is Pidyon Haben coins, the coins that will be used to perform the mitzvah. These are five coins made from at least 90% silver. U.S. Silver Eagles are a good option, or you can ask someone to buy pidyon haben coins in Israel for you.
Next up, you want to prepare the pidyon haben tray, where the baby will lay during the redemption ceremony. As we do for many mitzvos, you may want to beautify the mitzvah of Pidyon Haben with an elegant tray. A silver tray used for candlesticks may be just the right size.
To show our love for the mitzvah and our joy at being able to perform the Pidyon Haben, the baby is laid on the silver platter and draped in gold jewelry. Ask family members to whom you extend a pidyon haben invitation to bring along gold bracelets and necklaces. It’s helpful to have some gold-colored safety pins on hand to secure the jewelry to the baby’s outfit. And don’t forget, your newborn baby boy is the man of the hour. You’ll want to dress him up appropriately, in his most festive outfit.
Because this is a unique opportunity to perform a mitzvah, it will be marked with a celebratory meal. Another decision you have to make here is to decide whether you want to book a hall and hire a caterer, or if you want to go for something homier, and host the pidyon haben seudah at home, something on a smaller scale.
- The Celebratory Ceremony
Your baby’s big day is here! Your little boy is only 31 days old, but it is in his honor that the Pidyon Haben is being performed. After your baby is carefully laid on his tray, with the gold jewelry arranged around his ankles and trunk, he’s ready to be brought before the Kohen.
The father of the baby places his son on a table, behind which the Kohen stands. In Hebrew, he declares that this child is a firstborn son.
In response, the Kohen asks the father which he prefers, to give up his firstborn son or to redeem him. Since the Torah obligates the father to redeem his son, the father then proceeds with the redemption.
Before the father hands over the coins, he recites two brachos: first, he makes the bracha, “v’tzivanu al Pidyon Haben,” thanking Hashem for giving him this mitzvah. The second bracha is ‘Shehecheyanu’, thanking Hashem for bringing him to this special day. As the father finishes saying each bracha, the crowd gathered around will respond with a loud, “Amen!”
Then, the baby’s father hands the Kohen the prepared five silver coins, and the Kohen accepts them. With this action, he has fulfilled his mitzvah. The baby can be returned to its mother, and the assembled crowd is ready to wash and eat the festive meal.
During the meal, it’s appropriate to have someone deliver a Pidyon Haben Dvar Torah. Often, the father of the baby speaks, while some ask the Kohen to address the crowd.
The Depth and Meaning Behind a Pidyon Haben
Having your first baby is a deeply emotional time. There’s a certain special love you feel toward
your oldest child. You notice all the blessings in your life as you appreciate the wonderful gift of a son.
Feelings of gratitude run deep when cradling that warm little bundle in your arms for the very first time.
Gratitude reminds us that all the blessings in our life come from Above. As Jews, we know that everything we have is a
gift. And we want to channel all our feelings of thankfulness and joy to the One Who is the Source of all good.
That’s where Pidyon Haben comes in. When we experience the miraculous birth of a firstborn, it’s a time to remember that everything we have is given to us by Hashem. By redeeming our firstborn, we show our belief that we don’t have anything of our own. Even this child does not truly belong to us, until we perform a Pidyon Haben to redeem him.
Realizing how much we owe Hashem leads us to be humble and to feel grateful, and appreciate every bit of blessing, rather than taking it for granted.
Expressing our gratitude can take so many forms. Strengthening our observance of a mitzvah is one way. Helping His less fortunate children is another way to show gratitude to Hashem. It’s also a way of modeling ourselves in His footsteps- just as Hashem is kind to us, so too, we are kind to others. Just as we want Hashem to give our child the best chances in life, so too, we give others better chances in life.